|Preston and Katie at Lauren's wedding|
If you've read my blog for any length of time, you'll know that Preston and Katie have been dating for four years. Since they were Juniors in high school.
They, like any couple their age, have had some rough patches.
Being a protective mom and a "heart on my sleeve" mom, I reacted.
One thing I did, was to delete many posts about the two of them when it looked like they were broken up for good.
It's something I regret doing.
They are gone forever. It's too bad, too.
They chronicled important life events for all of us.
There has been high emotion regarding a number of things---choices he's made that hurt me and Eric.
To say that it's been a tough year for everyone, is putting it mildly.
Many tears and sleepless nights.
Much prayer, mighty prayer.
They broke up last spring, but Preston's heart would not let go.
They got back together in early summer. Katie's heart, it seems, would not let go either.
The summer was a busy, happy time for both of them. Preston never brought her to the house, though.
When she finally came over in late summer, to help him pack for college, all my anger at their situation melted away. She really is a wonderful girl, who loves my son.
On August 24th, they got engaged.
Again, drama ensued. Eric and I think finishing college should be priority number one. Loving and supporting another human being is a big (ginormous!) step, physically, emotionally and financially.
It is the financial part that hangs us up. Once you're married, all the bills your parents once covered, fall to you. Our health insurance company doesn't care that we still think he's ours to take care of. They, neither one, have jobs that offer health insurance.
Really, I can fret and carry on til the cows come home. It serves no purpose. It doesn't change the fact that they are engaged.
But what can I change, surely I can change something?!!
I can change my heart.
I, as I've mentioned in the past, have an amazing Mother-In-Love.
She is supportive, loving, and accepts me--warts and all.
I call her "mom", at her request; and do it without hesitation. It is an honor.
She has been a perfect example of how a MIL can behave.
I have seen some ugly mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships.
Movies have been made about it.
Books have been written about it.
There's even a reality TV show about it.
While we can all watch and laugh, the truth is, that scenario is painful---for everyone.
I refuse to be that mother-in-law.
I will choose, instead, to follow my own Mother-In-Love's example.
I will change my heart.
It won't be so hard.
I love the kids and want to be a part of their lives as they move forward--together.
January 3, 2014 is the date they've set to be married.
I choose to be a Mother-In-Love and not a Monster-In-Law.
A blessing and not a curse.
Thanks, Mom, for setting such a great example of Christ's love in the face of worry and doubt and hurt feelings.